In random order
Original (O1-O31):
- Are they capable of uttering these 3 phrases: “I’m sorry”, “I made a mistake”,”I don’t know”.
- How do they treat: the waiter, the garbage man, the cashier, the maid, the doorman.
- Are they a good listener ? How do they react to opposing opinions ? Do they raise their voice?
- How do they handle themselves in times of crisis ?
- What makes them lose their temper ? How far do they go when they lose their temper ?
- What are their friends like?
- Do they have to know where you were, with whom, what you did every second of the day ?
- What do they say about person X when they are not around? How does it differ when person X is present?
- Which books, tv programs, and movies do they like ?
- Are they constantly complaining ? What do they complain about ?
- Do they completely change their behavior depending who is present ?
- Are they interested in the news ? Only Local or Foreign too ?
- Are they obsessed with their weight ? Do they excercise ? How often ?
- Do they like sports ? As a spectator or participant ?
- What kind of music do they like ? Are they interested in video clips ?
- Where do they prefer to eat out ? What do they eat at home ?
- Do they take foolish risks ?
- How interested are they in other people’s opinion of them ?
- Who do they idolize ?
- How eager are they to be recognised ?
- How do they behave in a crowd (6+ people), do they try to dominate the conversation ?
- What does this person like to talk about ? What are they proud of ?
- How long did it take this person to dress ? How much did it cost ? Is it comfortable ? Designer names ?
- If they notice you bought something new/expensive, will they immediately ask you how much it costs?
- Will they ask you how much money you make ?
- What do they spend most of their money on ?
- Do they spend every single dime they earn ? or save some ? If they save, how much ? 1/2/3/12 months salary ?
- Do they know how much a kg of tomatoes costs ? How much it used to cost last month ? last year ? in 1997 ?
- Do they try to make people laugh ?
- Their smile, is it genuine ? Do they automatically giggle at the silliest joke you tell?
- Do they give insincere compliments ?
What else ?
Ammendments (A1-A32):
- CSS: Are they willing to use a flip chart and colorful markers to help you work out important decisions in your life? (People really love it when I flip chart for them, so I expect the same in return)
- CSS: Is there at least one dish that they really, really, really do well. Like impressive beyond belief. (Passionate cooker=good)
- CSS: What does their medicine cabinet look like? (Is there a bandaid stuck on to some dried hair gel or toothpaste in there?)
- Sara: How do they treat their parents?
- Sara: How do they treat the elderly
- Sara: How do they treat kids? Like push them aside; to give a way to themselves or others? Not listen to them when they’re busy?
- Sara: If they miss a day at work; due to oversleeping or not feeling like it, do they have to get a sick-leave or count it from their annual leave? Or just let it be deducted of their monthly salary peacefully?
- Sara: If they were to travel just to see someone, or to do anything that’s not urgent, would they still do it even if they don’t have some holidays left for them to take from (unpaid leave)?
- Sara: If they saw someone looking like they need something & they have the time & ability to help, would they ask to help? And if no one would notice that they’ve helped, would they still do it? Or ignore? (Hani> and would they brag about it to everyone afterwards)
- Sara: Are they the type of people who believe in saving seats for their friends or family in a lecture or whatever, when they’re late? Or think that who comes first deserves the seats?
- Sara: If there’s something in front of them that’s available for free, would they take as much from it as their hands (& maybe head) could carry? Or they’d just take what’s enough for them?
- Sara: What are their limits in giving(if they can still give)? Do they think there’s “too much” in giving?
- Sara: Do they “thank you” while meaning it (sincerely)?
- Sara: When eating with someone, do they make sure that this other person/s is/are eating enough? Or just eat their way through?
- Sara: What’s their relationship like with their ‘arhaam’? Do they keep the ties of kinship?
- Sara: How’s their relationship with their siblings like?
- Sara: How do they view or value things? By their tangible value, or their meaning & essense?
- Sara: Do they continue what they’re saying when people cut them off (like get louder & try to carry on what they were saying by force)? Or pause & listen & then bring across their point when others are ready to listen?
- Sara: Do they smile only at people they need things from?
- Sara: How often do they say “I love you”? And do they mean it each & every time?
- Sara: Does their laughter usually revolve around making-fun-of/being-against someone or something?
- Sara: Whenever they nod their heads, do they truly do it approvingly, or to just go with the flow?
- Jad: Do they read useful blogs ?
- VA: Do they snap at other (innocent) ppl when they’re in a bad mood?
- VA: do they feed stray cats?
- VA: Do they brush themselves and laff off a fall or a hidious slip in a mall or any other public place?
- VA: Does a bad hair day or that odd zit become their major crisis of the year?
- VA: Could they carry on a conversation eloquently in most issues?
- VA: Do they have to prove they’re right in every discussion or do they just enjoy the diversity?
- VA: Are they loud, obnoxious and crave attention?
- VA: Are they drama queens?!
- VA: Do they pick on the silliest details, like, all the time!?
24 Users Commented In This Post
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 00:55:28
And your point is….?
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 01:17:44
I don’t get it Hani, what are you measuring?
I wish you numbered them so they can be easily referenced.
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 01:20:39
Qwaider, none, I read a post about how to pick a husband, and this inspired me to make a list not of how to pick a husband, but people in general.
Asoom, tikrami, easily done.
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 05:32:04
Good list, it’s missing:
-Are they willing to use a flip chart and colorful markers to help you work out important decisions in your life? (People really love it when I flip chart for them, so I expect the same in return)
-Is there at least one dish that they really, really, really do well. Like impressive beyond belief. (Passionate cooker=good)
-What does their medicine cabinet look like? (Is there a bandaid stuck on to some dried hair gel or toothpaste in there?)
This is very important stuff.
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 05:35:30
How do they treat kids? Like push them aside; to give a way to themselves or others? Not listen to them when their busy?
How do they treat their parents?
How do they treat the elder?
If they miss a day at work; due to oversleeping or not feeling like it, do they have to get a sick-leave or count it from their annual leave? Or just let it be deducted of their monthly salary peacefully?
If they were to travel just to see someone, or to do anything that’s not urgent, would they still do it even if they don’t have some holidays left for them to take from (of course while knowing that they can still do it, but those few days will be deducted from them)?
If they saw someone looking like they need something & they have the time & ability to help, would they ask to help? And if no one would notice that they’ve helped, would they still do it? Or ignore?
Are they the type of people who believe in saving seats for their friends or family in a lecture or whatever, when they’re late? Or think that who comes first deserves the seats?
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 05:51:25
If there’s something in front of them that’s available for free, would they take as much from it as their hands (& maybe head) could carry? Or they’d just take what’s enough for them?
What are their limits in giving(if they can still give)? Do they think there’s “too much” in giving?
Do they “thank you” while meaning it?
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 05:53:56
When eating with someone, do they make sure that this other person/s is/are eating enough? Or just eat their way through?
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 06:51:48
What’s their relationship like with their ‘arhaam’? Do they keep the ties of kinship?
How’s their relationship with their siblings like?
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 07:00:05
How do they view or value things? By their tangible value, or their meaning & essense?
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 07:33:06
do they write seventeen comments for the same post?
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 08:28:51
Do they continue what they’re saying when people cut them off (like get louder & try to carry on what they were saying by force)? Or pause & listen & then bring across their point when others are ready to listen?
ps. am i crossing any lines by these comments globalorama?
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 09:33:43
Do they smile only at people they need things from?
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 10:45:39
I hate point 24 and 25.
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 12:19:00
I am still confused somewhat.
Certainly the features are irksome and I regret to admit are a part of many people I know! Lord knows Sara’s point [08:28:51] on people pursuing a point with a raised voice makes my eyes cross in frustration…
Yet equally many I recognise in myself; I can only hope they are the good points! :-)
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 12:41:58
Globalrama, the more the better.
KJ, I know at least 5 people who ask me for an update on 25 every time I see them. They’re the most materialistic people I know. They’re not even ashamed to ask. This is a giveaway.
Layla, nobody is perfect, and the reason most of these are questions is that there’s no right answer. We all make up our own answers and criteria.
CSS, Sarah, thank you for your ammendments, I added them to the list, and commented on a few of them below.
A1: What is a flip chart ? :)
A4: Great one, if you don’t treat your parents well after what they did for you, chances are you’ll never treat anyone well.
A9: Poeple who only do nice things so that they can brag about it make me sick
A16: Another great one, aside from your spouse (husband/wife), no one knows you as well as your siblings since they knew you before you learned to censor yourself.
A17: What really bothers me is when someone asks you something, and while you’re answering them, they turn their head and start talking to someone else about something irrelevant !
A19: Insincere compliments and smiles are among the best indicators of an opportunist.
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 14:20:26
How often do they say “I love you”? And do they mean it each & every time?
Does their laughter usually revolve around making-fun-of/being-against someone or something?
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 14:25:43
Whenever they nod their heads, do they truly do it approvingly, or to just go with the flow?
ps. thank YOU for starting this :)
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 15:31:32
Do they read useful blogs ?
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 15:41:25
do they snap at other (innocent) ppl when they’re in a bad mood?
do they feed stray cats?
do they brush themselves and laff off a fall or a hidious slip in a mall or any other public place?
does a bad hair day or that odd zit become their major crisis of the year?
cud they carry on a convo eloquently in most issues?
do they have to prove they’re right in every discussion or do they just enjoy the diversity?
r they loud obnoxious and crave attention?
r they drama queens!
do they pick on the silliest details, like, all the time!?
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 18:38:12
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flip_chart
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 21:17:29
Oh wow I missed alot! So it’s about picking a husband….
I think #5, 7, and 10 stand out for me as really important. Also #25 can definately be a deal breaker!
Really important: Does he feel like the luckiest man in the world to have me?
Posted from
10-17-2007 at 22:32:20
Asma, I didn’t express myself clearly. This was inspired by a post about picking a husband, but it is instead meant to decide how to pick people to associate with in general.
Posted from
10-18-2007 at 23:00:19
I missed that! bas that’s one heckva list! & it ain’t the way to measure how good people are, believe me! :)
Posted from
10-19-2007 at 12:34:20
Hani,
First of all sorry for my weak writing and my bad english ,
These questions are very helpful and useful to evaluate the people around you in the same environment such as company , Gym and so on , I always try to find out the answers myself in different ways to judge on others and to decide how should i behave with them , From my experience , You some times you shouldn’t speak in very direct and clear words to avoid misusing your words some times, In Arabic there is a way is called “Ma’aareed” and Arab used to use this way to avoid themselves from lieing and to mislead others (It is almost used in a critical situations) but to me I usually use this way with untrusted people .
The other criterias are standards and all of them are dependent , In my long experience in behaviour studies and personality analysis , I am able to determine 70% from hiddden personality for anyone if he send me an Email with randome words he picks them up ,
Hani , It is really good topic to talk about and i wish you good luck .
This is me nation waly ;)
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